Today, 25 November, marks the anniversary of the Declaration on the Elimination of Violence Against Women, designated by the United Nations Assembly in 1999.

Of course, it is important to mark this day, but the commitment must be a daily one which is undertaken by each and every person. This goes all the way from policy and education to individual behaviour.

There are some startling statistics: 20-25% of women within the European Union are violently abused. 10% of these are also the victims of sexual abuse. In Malta, 77% of people believe that violence against women is common.

Let us be clear. The fact that women are coming forward and reporting more cases of abuse to the police is, in itself, a positive sign. While the violence is tragic, there is at least some solace in the knowledge that women are becoming more empowered in reporting cases to the police and having action taken.

The courts and the law have also stiffened over the years and offenders are punished. But, perhaps, what is most positive is the attitude taken towards abusers. When the court sees that the case is a strong one, bail conditions are harsh and the accused is normally ordered to leave the residence, at least until the case is closed. If found guilty, that order becomes permanent and punishment is meted out.

Still, there is so much to do. For all those who do come forward, there are others who continue to suffer in silence. The help is available. The National Council of Women is involved and Appogg is involved.

One cannot forget that the various nunneries and homes – the stalwarts who provided refuge to women when it was still taboo to say that you were a victim of violence or abuse – still do what they can.

Education is key, as is upbringing. The fact of the matter is that the vast majority of those who commit violence (whether sexual or physical) are men. It is not a matter of tarring all with one brush – it is fact.

Maltese men are finally shedding the idea that the man is the head of the family and must be obeyed at all times, no matter what the order. There are still hang-ups, and we are not yet totally mainstream European when it comes to our attitude towards gender equality, but a good portion of Maltese men are changing, or have changed.

But again, for all those who do believe in an equal society and practise their belief, there are many others for whom the wife or partner is still a slave. Some go further and take their life frustration out on poor wretches. There is no common denominator. A woman beater can be well dressed, well spoken and charming. He can also be a tattooed, shaven headed lout. We must all listen. We must not shy away. We must not look away from the bruises. We must not dismiss injuries as accidents.

The government has made strides forward in setting policy to help women reintegrate into society after being in abusive relationships. But we must put hand on heart and question ourselves. Are we doing enough? Probably not, and this is because we can never do enough and must strive harder.