In an exchange of views between a local couple, Manwel and Rosaria, and Ranfis, a foreigner, about the Maltese Prehistoric Temples, the topic of divorce was touched on. This is how it went:
“Relationships have changed in many ways. The family situation is changing even in Catholic Malta. Yet we still cannot even discuss divorce because it is not on the political agenda,” said Manwel. “Divorce is a universally recognised civil right which is denied only to us, citizens of Malta, and the Philippines.”
“In some funny way, marriage in Malta is in crisis even though we do not have divorce,” added Rosaria. “The authorities claim that they do not want to introduce divorce in Malta to strengthen marriage. Clearly this argument has not worked here.”
“I’m sure that future generations will one day laugh sarcastically at our narrow mindedness about this issue of divorce,” commented Manwel.
“One thing that will change in the future is the realm of relationship − relationships of every level,” said Ranfis. “Higher frequencies are motivating these changes, and many of you are already responding to these higher energies by changing jobs, residence or relationships. That is why you have so many split-ups, breakdowns, separations and divorces. The present situation regarding failed relationships is forcing you to look at yourself and to ask questions. Humanity is now ready to move on and experience other aspects of life.”
“It seems to me that everything will be very much different in the future, but what will happen to relationships?” asked Rosaria inquisitively.
“In the new energy scenario, the key is to put yourself at the centre of your life, and to do this, it is neither selfish nor egotistic. Future relationships will come from the heart, and will be based on honesty and truth. The focus will be on sharing and co-dividing energies, while at the same time keeping your beingness and your uniqueness…God created Love, while humans created marriage. Love creates union of souls and mind and oneness with the universe, while the institution of marriage often produces possession of the other person and thus it stifles creativity and growth.”
“You are right. Many of our friends are separated or have split up. Since in Malta we don’t have divorce many of them live with someone else or set up alternate families. The culture labels these people as ‘living in sin,’ still people do their own thing.”
“When you look around you, the changes are evident,” continued Ranfis. “Today couples stay together out of free will, while before they had little choice, and more so in the case of women. Marriage in the old energy prevented the coming together of a man and a woman, as there were too many impositions from society as a whole…This will all change soon, as the premise of the new-paradigm of relationship will be to love the other by loving oneself first and to make a commitment to help each other become more conscious,” asserted Ranfis.
(Extract from the novel Islands of Dream – about the Prehistoric Temples of Malta.)
Fortunately, since this conversation took place in 2008, the topic of divorce was forced on the political agenda after decades of inertia. It is now discussed on TV, in newspapers, in pubs and in restaurants, and around the kitchen tables. It seems that we have finally ‘grown up’ as a nation, realising that we are entitled to make up our minds even in the best interests of the ‘minority.’ God gave us the gift of ‘free will’ and it’s up to the individual to make those choices in life. The State is there to facilitate these choices and to safeguard the rights of each individual. This civil right should not be subjected to the will of the majority through a Referendum as the Government intends to do. We are witnessing a ‘sea of change’ all around us and I hope that it will reach our shores so it can change the way things stand at the moment.
Francis Xavier Aloisio
SLIEMA