The Malta Independent 18 May 2024, Saturday
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Of spouses and bullies

Sunday, 26 August 2018, 08:43 Last update: about 7 years ago

There is another twist to the tale, another controversy sparked by Michelle Muscat's comments following the publication of the Egrant Inquiry. During an interview with Saviour Balzan on national TV, Mrs Muscat spoke out for the first time after 15 months about the horrid time she and her loved ones, including her children had been through. Her comments were particularly strong, like any other parent's would be, when it came to the way her children were treated especially because she felt that the school they go to had failed to protect them.

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In come Kristina Chetcuti and Nickie Vella de Fremaux, who both felt the need to react to these comments in different ways, clearly showing the evident split in the PN ranks.

The former's reaction was as bitter as her other half's usually are. She was perhaps as upset as he was that the Egrant story had notcome true and tried to shift the blame on the Prime Minister and his wife for the way that cameras followed their children and the way they were targeted at school. There is no other way around this - her reaction showed how sorry and pathetic she is.

On the other hand, de Fremaux complained that her children were also victims of similar treatment by their peers simply because their father had become leader of the Nationalist Party.

To many, such treatment may sound strange. To others, it may seem a bit cruel to treat children in such a manner. But my peers, colleagues and I expect no less.

Bloggers mocked the way we looked simply because our beliefs were different. They wished us things I would not even dare wish on others, mostly because we didnot belong to the same party.

Yet, we stand tall today, as we are the ones sympathising and reaching out to those who have become targets - because we know what it feels like to be bullied. We are also the ones who, for a long time, had to be wary andheedful of what to wear, who to speak to and where to go.

Furthermore, we are also the generation that looks forward to a society where everyone feels accepted and one which embraces different views, religions, people and ideas. We refuse to look back at the old divisive type of people that ridiculed everyone;instead, we want to change the way things are done.

In this regard, and in order to continue building on the good foundations laid by many who have already started to tackle the subject, such as MEP Marlene Mizzi and Minister Owen Bonnici, I believe that work is needed on two strands.

The first is education. We need to invest in education to equip not only our children, but also society at large with knowledge about the repercussions of bullying, both online and elsewhere. As the English saying goes, prevention is better than cure and we need to have a strategy in place where we communicate, including the availability and effective dissemination of information about where and how targets of bullying can find help, if needed.

Education must however be coupled with effective action. For far too long our most vulnerable, children and people with special needs, have been targets of bullies. We need to send a strong message that it is not OK to be a bully. We need a framework that offers assistance to the victims and one which is hard on those who think they can coerce, intimidate or use force with others. We should be the voice of the weak. We can do better, we should do better.

 


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